There are so many things to learn when having that first baby. So many ideas and fantasies go right out the window, to be replaced with an even better reality. You just don’t always see it at the time. When my daughter was first born, I had an idea that eventually I wanted to wear her. After lots of research, I had stumbled across babywearing. It sounded like something that would be really cool to try!
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Reality set in
Fast forward to when my daughter was born. Things did not exactly go the way I had expected them to go. At all. My daughter had severe acid reflux right off the bat. We did everything the right way and worked very closely with our pediatrician. We learned very quickly that she needed certain things that we hadn’t anticipated. For example, after she ate she had to be kept upright. Because she couldn’t eat much at a time, we were pretty much constantly feeding her around the clock.
She would be so upset that sometimes she refused bottles. As a first time parent with post-partum anxiety, it was one of the most stressful periods of my life.
I had a doula when my daughter was born and she came over for our post-partum visit. When I told her how I was struggling, she gently suggested
I learned how to babywear
I summoned up the courage and off I went. The experience made me nervous but I soon started talking to the friendly moms who were helping the newbies out. I tried on a few different wraps and found one that I loved and ordered the minute I got home.
That started my obsession with babywearing. I would wear my daughter every day, sometimes for hours because it was comfortable for her. Not only that, but it was comfortable for me and I had my hands free for the first time. I learned how to feed her in the wrap. She would be upright after eating and then she fell asleep. She was happy, I was happy, and we were bonding.
I didn’t stop at just one wrap. I soon learned about all the different types of wraps and the pros and cons of so many of them. Here’s the thing about babywearing. You’re allowed to have more than one wrap or babywearing device! I thought at first that I’d just pick one and go with it. That’s not what happened.
I started with a soft wrap. It was amazing and let me snuggle with my newborn for hours. I learned different ways to tie the wrap and different carries. We would bond and get things done and for the first time in my post-partum experience, I felt like maybe this was something I could do. I could be a mother and be a mother to my daughter.
As she got older, I started to look into other options. We got a soft structured carrier for my husband so he could join in the fun. The wrap was intimidating to him so we changed things up a bit.
Then I got another wrap that was a bit sturdier for wearing her on my back. I learned how to back carry, something that gave me a lot of new carries to try!
I was intrigued by ring slings so I got one. And then another. And another. Each one has its time and place and I use them all.
She loves it too
I’m not the only one who loves babywearing! My daughter gets a huge kick out of it. She’s a naturally curious child and always wants to see what’s happening. When she’s on my back being carted around, she loves that she can look over my shoulder and see what I’m seeing.
Strollers have their time and place, but there are so many things that you can’t use a stroller for. We go hiking from time to time as a family, and being able to wear my daughter makes for a great experience for all of us. She’s interested in nature and new things and loves looking around!
We also babywear in the house. It’s great for when she’s not feeling well. She can snuggle with me and I can still move around. Sometimes just having the extra support of the wrap or ring sling is a HUGE help on my tired arms.
Babywearing has been a win-win for us and radically changed how we parent. Have you tried babywearing?
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