There are more pressures today than ever before to craft a specific image of your child’s life. Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat… The list goes on and on. When your friends are posting beautiful pictures that look professionally edited announcing pregnancies and documenting their child’s first steps in a stunning video with the perfect lighting, it’s hard not to feel like the bar has been raised.
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When my daughter was a newborn, I felt those pressures too. I wanted to make sure she had a wonderfully documented childhood that she could be proud of. However, as a new mom struggling with the demands of it all, my perfectly laid out plans swiftly went out the window.
I didn’t have time to set up the perfect photoshoot. My daughter spent most of her first six months in bibs because her reflux was so bad. There was always something that had to get done, like washing bottles, doing laundry so we’d all have clothes to wear, or going to the grocery store so we could eat. Those were my priorities, as they should have been.
It took me a while to accept that I was doing the best that I could and it would have to be good enough. I had other friends who struggled with this same thing too. We talked about the pressure to curate the perfect feed and how it just made us feel even more helpless and judged.
It’s OK. We’ve all been there. Even the people who post those beautiful pictures feel the way that you and I do. Even those people see faults in the images and things they could have improved. The important thing is, we all love our children with every ounce of our being. We all are doing the best we can. And behind that perfect picture is a non-perfect reality.
We don’t share photographs of our houses a mess. We don’t share photographs of our children crying for seemingly no reason or dinners that come out less than perfect. Everyone edits what they share on social media most people only show their feeds the best of their content.
At the end of the day, those pictures aren’t something that is going to shape who our children are. The love that we give them when we are not behind a camera is something that will do them a great deal of good. So the next time you feel pressured to post that perfect picture but your child won’t look at the camera, take the pictures anyway. And then go back to playing. Someday you’ll look at that picture and your children won’t see the imperfections. They’ll see the joy on their faces for being with their parents. And that’s what counts.
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